Asking Can Be Hard Day 5: Asking for Help
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18, ESV)
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2, ESV)
My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. (2 Corinthians 12:9, ESV)
Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. (Matthew 7:7, ESV)
Do you struggle with asking for help? It might be in small things, like asking for someone to explain a topic again or help on a project you’re working on. It might even be something larger, like asking for help with an addiction or a personal struggle you’re facing. I personally struggle with asking for help; it’s definitely my stubborn side coming through as I try to show that I can handle things on my own. I try to be independent, and then end up bottling things up inside and claiming over and over again that I’m fine, until some poor soul sees me lose my temper over something small. Maybe I’m not alone in this and you can relate too. Today, I hope I can challenge you to understand it’s actually a good thing to ask for help and that it can be a way to honor God and those around us.
One thing about humans is that we weren’t designed to be self-sufficient. We weren’t designed to be robots, functioning on our own. God designed us for community and to enjoy and appreciate time with others. We don’t read about just Adam in the book of Genesis, but about Adam and Eve; God said, “It is not good that man should be alone” (Gen. 2:18). From the very beginning, we were designed for companionship. I’m not saying that you are never allowed to spend time alone; that’s not realistic, and also there are good things about being alone and spending time in reflection. But we must understand that companionship was designed by God and it’s a treasure and something to be thankful for. Part of companionship is supporting one another and asking for help when needed.
A misconception about asking for help is thinking that it makes us a failure; also, we don’t want to appear to be “needy.” There is nothing weak about asking another believer, friend, or relative for genuine help when needed. I’ve fallen into this trap before by being too hard on myself and thinking it makes me a failure if I ask someone for help when there are too many things on my plate. I was wrong and I continue to be wrong every time I slip into that mindset. Our society is so focused on being self-sufficient and “needing no one but yourself,” but that’s not a correct biblical perspective. We were not designed to be self-sufficient; we need the Lord and we need those around us to help us and lift our burdens off our own shoulders.
It’s also important to communicate our needs to the Lord. Asking Him for help is an acknowledgement that we are in need of Him at all times and that He is able. We read in 2 Corinthians 12 that “[His] power is made perfect in weakness.” We don’t have to put on a front for the Lord that we have it all together; He knows that we need Him at all times. We must look to Him for our strength and especially in times of need. You might be wondering, “How do I even ask the Lord for help when I’m going through something?” He’s not exactly physically sitting beside you for you to talk to, but we read in Matthew 7 that all we have to do is seek Him and ask. We can come to Him with our burdens at any time, and we have the promise that He will hear our needs and answer. It may not always be in the way we think or according to our timeline, but He will supply our every need.
I hope that when you are considering asking for help you’ll just do it. Don’t let feelings of pride cloud your brain. Remember that we were created for community, and as a community, we are to support one another and bear one another’s burdens. Not only can we seek support from believers, but we can come to the One who is our Savior—the only One who can do immeasurably more than all we can ask or imagine!