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Grieving our Losses 1- What is Grief?

Grieving Our Losses
Day 1- What Is Grief?
Wendi Colaiuta

Swept along with the tide
the force of the current
making it hard to stand still
to find firm footing
to catch a breath

time has rushed past
like the scenery in the wake
life has happened around you
and you’ve missed it.

Raw emotion brimming
quiet tears breaking into uncontrolled heaves
to nothing at all
just a numb paralysis
a blank stare
the sadness is real.

Disoriented and confused
blindsided and achingly empty
surrounded by the rushing waters
exhausted and defeated
unsure of what to do next
you want out of the torrent
grasping for anything to hold onto
that will pull you from the current
and set you on a quiet bank

to breathe
to process
to receive comfort
to heal
to rediscover hope


This is one glimpse of grief. It is nearly impossible to quantify, to describe, to capture. A quick search for a formal definition yields very little, only “deep sorrow.” Grieving is our response to loss in many forms. The impact of those losses runs the gamut in intensity. Someone or something we treasure has been taken from us. There is a gaping hole where that person, that role, that dream, that condition once lit up our days, filled us with joy or vision, sparked passion or creativity, breathed life and color and hope into our gaze—around us in any given day or ahead to the future. And now it’s gone.

Somehow, there is no way to prepare ourselves for loss or to anticipate our response to those losses. There is no way to chart a path through a season of grief. We are advised to let it take its own course, to grant ourselves permission to be wherever we are on the journey at any given time, to let sorrow do its perfect work in its own time and way.
Sounds rather hopeless. Dark. Lonely. Despairing.
Oh, but God. . .

May we never forget that there is One who is intimately acquainted with grief. He sees our tears. He feels our despair. He understands what seems senseless to us. He longs to draw near.

Your Comforter has never left your side
He offers His hand to lift you
from the raging swells
a tender embrace
a safe retreat
to sort through it all
protection from the torrent
time and space
to weep
to heal
dear soul, reach for His touch
strain to hear His whisper
let Him care for you
with truth that steadies you
love that wraps and holds you
wonder that leaves you in awe
hope that breathes new life
a pulse of belief
He will carry you
to a brighter day.


“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” (Psalm 34:18, NLT)

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