Grieving Our Losses Day 15 – Grief over Change
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, ESV)
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:11-13, ESV)
“We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain.” (Hebrews 6:19, ESV)
In our study of different forms of grief, today we are going to discuss grief over change. Change is something I have had a difficult time dealing with, even going back to my younger years. It’s not so much that I didn’t like the new chapter on the way, but the idea of a chapter of life being closed, never again to be reopened. I didn’t want vacations to end, summer break to end, holidays to end, or time with friends to end. I remember being sad after high school graduation and sad when it was time to move out of my parents’ house and into my own home.
Why did I feel this way? It’s not that I wasn’t looking forward to college or wasn’t excited about having my own place; it was that I came to a realization that those periods of time in my life were over and they would never be experienced again. I knew the routine had gotten comfortable there; there were no surprises around the corner.
Perhaps you feel the same about change. I don’t feel quite as strongly as I once did; since being married, there have been job changes, a move, two children born, and many other life changes along the way. Change has become a bit easier to deal with, but I still don’t think I love it all that much. I’m not talking about going to a new restaurant, or buying a shirt from a different store; I’m talking about real life changes that have ripple effects.
We read in Ecclesiastes that there is a season for just about everything in life; simply put, we should expect and embrace change. As Christians, it should be even easier for us to embrace change because of the Rock that our faith stands firmly upon, the Lord Jesus Christ. He, in addition to being our Creator and our Savior, is our Rock, our Anchor, and our steadfast Hope throughout the trials and struggles of life.
Because of Him, we have a peace that passes all understanding. After all, there is no bigger change that can take place in our lives than what happened at our salvation. We passed from death to life, from bond to free, from being condemned to being redeemed. We can thank God for change; we might not always like the changes in life, but we know that all things work out for His purposes. Our God has a plan for each one of us, a plan that will very likely require change. Let us work to embrace change, His change, in our lives on a daily basis, changing our desires and our will to be in line with His, and changing our hearts to follow after Him.