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Managing Our Emotions Well 5: Rejection 

Managing Our Emotions Well Day 5 – Rejection 

If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. (John 15:18, ESV)

For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in. (Psalm 27:10, ESV)

He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not. (Isaiah 53:3, ESV)

If I were to rank my fears, rejection would be pretty near the top of the list. I can’t count the number of things I have not done because I feared being rejected. I’ve lost out on connections, job opportunities, friendships, new experiences, you-name-it, because I was afraid that I would be turned away. Honestly, rejection can be a trigger for all the emotions we discussed this week. The fear of rejection can prevent you from doing things God has called you to do. Rejection can be met with feelings of frustration and anger that can cause us to lash out. Pride can make us react negatively to rejection. Jealousy can make the sting of rejection all the more painful. So, how do we handle it?

First, we need to be reminded that we are not alone in rejection. In fact, Scripture tells us clearly that we will face rejection in this world because of what we believe. People will cast us away because they don’t want to hear the words of God. Christ Himself knows this better than any of us. He was rejected by His own family members, His nation, His friends, and the very people He came to redeem. He knows the heartbreak that rejection brings, and yet we never see Him give in to the pressure of it all. He handled the rejection of man with nothing but patience and grace. Whenever we experience rejection, we can take comfort in the truth that we can turn to a God who understands the feeling more than we ever could. 

Second, I think we need to come to an understanding about what rejection means. I think it’s fair to say that the reason we hate rejection and fear it so much is because it feels like a personal attack. When someone rejects us, it can feel like we are ourselves a reject. This could not be further from the truth. You are not a reject because someone has rejected you. Say it louder for the people in the back: You are not a reject because someone has rejected you. Whether it was a friend, significant other, coworker, or even an acquaintance who rejected you, that is no reflection on who you are as a person. You are just as worthy of love as you were before they pushed you away.

What we must do, just as Christ did, is handle ourselves with poise and grace. Do not give in to the anger, sadness, or fear that rejection brings, but instead remember the truth that you are known, loved, and accepted by the Creator of the universe. You are not a reject; you have simply been rejected. Respect the wishes of the rejecting party and have grace for them and yourself. Bring it before the Lord and ask Him to help you handle it well.

My challenge to you today is to reevaluate the times you felt rejected. Think as far back as you can because oftentimes it’s the earliest memories that have affected us most. Measure up the experience to the truth of Scripture and what God says about us. Give those feelings over to Him and allow Him to give you the peace and comfort that only He can bring. Remember, you are not a reject because someone has rejected you.

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