Tools to Thrive as a Man of God Day 2: Accountability
“So then each of us will give an account of himself to God.” (Romans 14:12, ESV)
It’s humbling to know that each of us will have to give an account to God for how we lived our lives. Satan will consistently place temptations in the life of a man of God to pull him away from the Lord. This is why it’s important that as godly men we seek to hold ourselves accountable so we can remain on the right track. It’s important to note that because of our flesh, we are destined to stumble and fall at times. However, if our desire is to be a follower of Christ, then we need to make sure we take the proper steps to get back to following His Word.
So, who should hold us accountable? There are many people in our lives that we should seek to help us get back on track when we lose our way. Let’s take a look at who they are and the value they can bring.
Friends (Brothers in Christ)
Friendship is vital in a believer’s life, and we will explore this topic in more detail later in our study. A strong Christian friend and fellow brother in Christ can be one of the best people to hold us accountable. Many times, the friends we have are around the same age as us and, therefore, are encountering similar life experiences. It’s crucial that we have friends who are rooted in Christ and understand the Word of God. When they understand how we are supposed to be living, and who we are as individuals, they can often spot sin in our lives and other weaknesses we struggle with. It may not be easy for them to have that honest conversation with us, but if they are willing to have it, we must be willing to listen.
Elders (Leaders of the Local Church)
God placed leaders in the local church for a very specific reason. They are meant to help shepherd the flock and help the people of God grow. As members of the flock, we need to value these men and use them to help us grow. These are men who are generally older and more spiritually mature. They have encountered and experienced things in life that we can learn from. They may have experienced the same sin we struggle with in our lives. By confessing our sins and struggles to them, we can often learn from the advice they have to share. We should focus on building a relationship with these men so we can use them to help us mature as men of God.
Our Wives (Christian Spouse)
This one may not apply to everyone, but it’s certainly a valuable resource for accountability to those of us who are married. Your wife should know you better than anyone else in the world. She is also someone who should love you more than anyone else in the world. She is going to want what is best for you, and she can lovingly point out the flaws in your life as a man of God. A marriage is a partnership, and, together, a husband and a wife should sharpen each other. It may not be easy for a man to humble himself to hear critical feedback from his wife, but when he does, it will greatly help him mature as a man of God.
There is one final—and foremost—resource you can use to help hold yourself accountable—God. Accountability should be a focal point in your relationship with God. He knows you and can see everything you do and knows everything you think about. God is never going to be surprised by what you confess to Him. So why confess our sins? Confessing our sins helps us first of all acknowledge the sin in our lives, and then hold ourselves accountable to God. God’s grace will always be there for us, but daily confession of our sin helps us appreciate His grace more, and allows us to enter into a more intimate relationship with Christ.