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Walking a Disciple’s Walk Week 1 Day 5: Walk in Wisdom – Our Conversation

Day 5 – Walk in Wisdom – Our Conversation

Part 1: The Lie vs. the Truth and Why the Battle Matters

The Lie: “I love Jesus, but what I say doesn’t really matter.”

Ways we may show we believe the lie:

• We say the first thing that comes into our minds and do not recognize or admit when we have spoken inappropriately, inaccurately, or hurtfully. 

• We are proud of having “no filter” and do not understand why anyone would consider that to be a problem.

• We find ourselves in a never-ending loop of angry outbursts and apologies.

• We find ourselves doing “damage control” with others in our families, workplaces, or churches and feel we are always misunderstood or misrepresented.

• We do not look back introspectively at our days and consider sinful or hurtful words in order to repent and make things right.

• We chafe against the very idea of asking the Holy Spirit to guide our conversation when we are in a delicate situation or conflict.

• We see that we have wholly different vocabularies with one set of people in our lives than we do with another set of people—and we feel no desire or need to rectify that.

• Our instant reaction when a brother or sister questions the wisdom or helpfulness of our words is to defend ourselves and make excuses.

• We do not have relationships in our lives in which we have welcomed others to call us to repentance when our words are outside the boundaries of what is good or edifying.

• The words we type and send via messaging or social media are nothing like the words we would speak were we face to face with the person on the receiving end.

• We habitually forget that our omnipresent, omniscient, omnipotent God is listening to our every conversation. 

The Truth: If we truly loved Him, our conversation would be vitally important. 

What God’s Word says:

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” 

Colossians 4:5-6

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” 

Ephesians 4:29

“How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil. I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” 

Matthew 12:34-37

“If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.”

James 1:26

“So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell…. No human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”

James 3:5-6, 8

“Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.”

1 Peter 3:10

Why the Battle Matters:

The Bible could hardly be clearer about the necessity of wisdom in the Christian life. Wisdom is a defining attribute of God that we are consistently commanded to pursue as well, even when it comes at a significant cost. The Scriptures are also filled with story after story of the blessings that accompany wisdom and the disasters that accompany the rejection of wisdom and the acceptance of folly. It seems to me that in no area of our life are we more prone to that folly than in our words. We are so used to the way we think and speak that we are often completely blind to what we really say and how we really say it. When we err, it is easy to chalk it up to our personality or our upbringing or our circumstances. But, as disciples, we are responsible to our Master for the words that come out of our mouths, and they indicate far more than we often imagine about the spiritual state of our hearts.

Watch your mouth.” It may seem like a small and obvious thing to say; we repeat it to our kids when they dial up the disrespect or go after their siblings with taunts or tantrums. But, the phrase itself is straight from the Word of God and profoundly important. We cannot see with our physical eyes what we say, but we are to “keep watch” over our mouths, much like a vigilant soldier looking closely for any slight breach in his army’s defenses. Our mouths have a tendency to quickly run past the boundaries we try to set for them, like the forest fire James mentions in chapter 3 of his letter: “How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire!… The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life” (James 3:5-6). He goes on to say that we humans are entirely incapable of taming our tongues on our own (James 3:8). This is why we need to lean on the Holy Spirit for the power we cannot manufacture. 

We have already learned that walking as a disciple means walking in full dependence on the Lord. We cannot find truth without His revelation of truth to our hearts. We cannot obey His commands without the faith He gives us and the Spirit’s work in sanctifying us. In the same way, we cannot tame our tongues without the wisdom and grace given to us from God, as we surrender our emotions and agendas to follow His lead.

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