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Walking a Disciple’s Walk, Day 11- Walk by the Spirit: Our Chastity

(Forsaking Convenient Lies to Follow the Lord)

Day 11- Walk by the Spirit – Our Chastity
Part 1: The Lie vs. The Truth and Why the Battle Matters
Ashley Waliczek

The Lie: “I love Jesus, but my sexuality doesn’t really matter.”
Ways we may show we believe the lie:

•We deceive ourselves into thinking that one lustful look is no big deal, one sexual comment to a friend is nothing to apologize and repent for, or one two-minute video that nobody else knows we watched won’t hurt anyone—including ourselves.
•We feel ourselves drawn toward people and situations that we know will endanger our purity and tempt us to sin against God and others, but we pretend ignorance and pursue them anyway. Instead of fleeing from sin, we make allowances for looking at it and inching our way toward it, forgetting that sin always takes us a mile when we offer an inch.
•We make the false assumption that wearing our particular temptations and failures as part of our core identity will enable us to “tame” our sin. We say things like “God just made me this way” or “Nobody knows what it is like to be me, and Jesus would understand,” while we forget that no person who has been redeemed by Jesus is to be called by any name other than His.
•We cheapen His grace by assuming that giving in to our appetites will only be a momentary lapse, and when we ask Him to, He will forgive us and everything will be just as it was before.
•We dull our senses by watching impurity, reading impurity, and listening to impurity to the point where we no longer recognize that God’s law is being broken repeatedly and that our enjoyment of those things makes us complicit.
•We read the sentence above and think “That sounds too extreme” because we know we are guilty and it is uncomfortable to think about our choices in those terms.
•We pray for God to remove temptations and evil desires from us, while remaining uncommitted to depending on Him for strength to actually wage war against our sin with His Word and by His Spirit.

The Truth: If we truly loved Him, our chastity would be vitally important.
What God’s Word says:
“But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”
Galatians 5:16

“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”
2 Timothy 2:22
“’Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food’—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”
1 Corinthians 6:13

“So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions.”
Romans 6:11-12

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.”
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”
1 Corinthians 6:18

“Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, ‘You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,’ and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law…. Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh.”
Romans 13:8-10, 13-14b

Why the Battle Matters:
“Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.” These are the piercing words spoken by the Lord Jesus to the crowds in Luke 14:27. While He had not yet gone to the cross when He spoke them, His audience knew that they were being called to carry an instrument of execution. It would cost something to be a true disciple of this Messiah, or rather, it would cost everything. Now, we are faced with the same question they must have had that day: what exactly is our cross?

The cross of the martyrs throughout history was actually a physical execution. For countless others, it has been severe persecution and suffering. But, whatever cross we are called to carry for Christ, surely it will include doing (or not doing) anything which His will and His law requires, no matter how difficult or painful. Coming after Jesus Christ as a disciple means doing what He commands, living how He lives, believing what He teaches, and facing the resistance He faces.
Perhaps no area of our life is as difficult to surrender to the Lord as our sexuality. It is deeply personal, so often deeply broken, and carries with it shame and struggles we are terrified to expose. How many of us believe that if anyone really knew how dark our desires have been or how sinful our actions have been that we would be cast off forever by everyone we love and value? I think the number would be both surprising and heart-wrenching.

The lies we have been fed by the culture, and, sadly, sometimes even the church, have left sexual sinners (which we should admit all of us are) in a maze of confusion and chaos that could entangle us for years to come.
-“Should we tell everyone about our sin issues?”
-“Should we tell no one?”
-“Should we embrace ‘who we are’?”
-“Should we change our bodies to match who we think we are?”
-“Should we pursue this relationship despite all those red flags?”
-“Does it even matter who I sleep with?”
-“If I’ve sinned, am I permanently ruined and shunned?”
-“Is God finished with me?”


These questions and countless others are the reason why we must be prepared to confront lies about sex with truth from the Word of God. God is not scared of or disgusted by our sexual design—He created us and wants our sexuality to be used for His purpose and for His ultimate glory. We should always come to Him honestly with our questions and struggles, in prayer and study.

However, we must understand that when we choose not to steward our sexuality in a way that honors our Master, we fail to follow Him. We reject His Word, cheapen the great price He paid for us at Calvary, and put our own sinful desires ahead of living in complete obedience to His lordship. While forgiveness through the blood of Jesus is absolutely available to us when we call out to Him, our sexual sin should never be taken lightly or brushed off as a slip-up. Sin cuts off our intimacy with the Lord, and all sin demands repentance—a sincere and active turning away from the sin that has ensnared us and turning back toward our Redeemer.

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